Ephesians 4:32--And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
The apostle Paul is as clear about forgiveness as our Lord Jesus was: If you will not forgive others, God cannot forgive you. Consider this: If God is perfect, and He forgave you, why can’t you, with all of your faults, forgive somebody else? Until you forgive, you will live in torment, and God Himself personally guarantees your torment. If you think I’m kidding, read the parable of the unforgiving servant.
In this parable of Jesus, the king called in a servant who owed him ten million dollars and ordered him to pay up. The servant could not pay back this impossible sum, so the king ordered him and his family to be sold. When the servant begged for patience and pled he would pay off he debt, the king was moved with compassion and forgave the entire debt! But the same servant went out and found a man who owed him twenty dollars. That man could not pay his debt, so the forgiven servant threw him into prison. When the king found out, he called the servant and said, “You wicked servant!. .. Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?”
(vv. 32,33). Then the king, moved with anger, handed him over to the torturers.
How many people have you sent to an emotional penitentiary that you hold hostage because of a past offense you will not forgive. . .. Even though God has forgiven you through the death of His Son? Yet you defend your rights and don’t want to be reconciled. If you will not forgive, God will not forgive you. And then God will send the torturers to torment you.